Sob …weep…no amount of
cajoling her helped my pathetic ‘situation’. I told her “Believe me, it was not
planned. Once in a blue moon it just happened. Then I was just seventeen years
old boy”. I think she refused to believe me.
You know woman loves white lies, hypocrisy and diplomacy no wonder a
broken heart is always carried by a woman!
Unlike in west we do not
have the back seat of car or back yard to make it happen…One can forget about
your place or my palace. Privacy is the biggest problem in India. The person
who said, “Virginity is the lack of opportunity” must be a white man
(foreigner). Unlike in olden days it is not that our Roots are holding
youngsters. If you ask any youngsters in India, they will tell you it is the
lack of opportunity that they remain virgin. People in Indian middle class
families are always worried that what others (society) think of them .As if
they are making a living out of our society! You will not see such a
Hippocratic society anywhere in the whole world.
“Dear, had I left you high
and dry "?
"Oh! Yeah! I thought it
was better to get good sleep. My wife went on crying. “Nonsense, stupid girl… I
could not sleep properly. She went on and on until she fell asleep. Only
a child will cry over the split milk. I think once someone plan to get married
he/ she must leave the past. As far as sex is concerned once, you lost your
virginity to some one that is it! Even scientifically, it is impossible for
time reversal. My question is “is virginity guarantee successful married life?
I believe it is the mutual understanding between couple makes happy married
life.
For the next twenty-four
hours, my wife did not speak to me. On the third night, she came to my room
with a glass of milk. As usual I drank the milk, lay on the bed, and pretended
as if I was sleeping. I wanted to how she was going to handle the ‘situation’.
In fact I slept comfortably. She woke me up in the middle the night and asked
me to promise her that in future I will never sleep with any other woman. Even
I liked her idea. I do not like my wife sleeping with me and having an affair
with someone .I wants my wife totally committed to me physically and
emotionally. I immediately agreed to her and promised her “that I will not
sleep with any other woman.” … even after ten years of our married life we kept
our promises. Now you wanted to know what happened after that. Don't worry I am
not going to leave you high and dry …here it is... Written for my Blog friends
in the west... Check with your western style of first night …Ours styles is
different. It has its own charm.
CENSERED!
There was no
money for honeymoon. A new life! At last somebody is there at my disposal!
What a great feeling!” Boy. Why did not I get married earlier”? Life was
smooooooth. No more washing clothes or
dishwashing and forgets about cooking. I felt like singing.” what a feeling...”
One of the
service engineers working at our Hyderabad branch resigned and left for gulf.
My manager gave me transfer letter asking me to join at HYD branch in two
weeks’ time. I pleaded with him to send one young service engineer who was
completing training at our service center in Chennai. Manger told me that I was
promoted as sales com service engineer (without any raise in salary) I had
explained to him by telling selling international brand fax and laser printer
are something new to me. I also will find it difficult to meet expenditure. All
my reasoning fell on his deaf ears. He insists that I join HYD branch without
cribbing.
I had worked at
HYD branch for six months. Life was tough. A part from attending service calls
I also had to sell fax, dot matrix, laser printer, computer monitor, and
cordless phones and there was target to meet. I tried my best. I could not make
incentive by selling products because it was an international brand and prized
above all other brands. Most of the time I end up selling product at end user’s
prize, just to show the minimum target.
My mother and
wife wrote separate letters to me. Even silly problems were blown out of
propositions in pages after pages. In most of the letter they accused each
other. At home without a referee (me) it was free for all. We men get along
easily. If we do not like the other person, we will avoid him at any cost. If
the problem persists, we will solve the problem with another problem. It is
like “trouble the trouble and there won’t be any more trouble". For us men
it is just that simple. At home my mother and my wife wanted to bring the roof
down! I thought enough was enough. I will find some job in Chennai. I had
submitted my resignation letter after working for six month at HYD branch and
returned home without a job.
Even after three
years my wife was not conceived. We checked it with leading Gynecologist .she
told me that my wife needs test and medication.
After spending more than five thousand rupees and waiting for ten months
my wife delivered a healthy baby girl. I went to see my little princess.
In her native
place with new cloths and presented her cute little teddy bear. I saw my little
princess for the first time. She was sleeping. My wife handed over my little
daughter to me. She opened her tiny eyes and stared at me. I still cannot describe my feeling in words while
holding my little princes in my hands for the first time.
My wife named
her Ammi-ni. To me she will be always
Sony Gudiya .My wife later wrote to me that my "Gudiya" was
scared of teddy bear and used to cry when she was an infant. Gradually she got
used to him and they became Inseparable. My wife was taking training at her
home to bath and look after Sony. After fourth mouth I brought them back to my
home. Sony carried teddy bear wherever she goes. Seldom she gets angry and poor
teddy became her victim…teddy was always at the receiving end, after beating
she tells ‘him’ she doesn't want him around. She then throws him out of the
window. My wife or myself go out to pick up the teddy and 'pacify' him .if our
daughter is still angry she will came back and beat teddy again, at times she
would threaten teddy that she would kill him!. Hardly one year and two months
old and she want to kill teddy! When we pacify our poor teddy, Sony feel sorry
for him. She then tells him sorry and gives him a bear hug and showers him with
kisses. They soon became inseparable once again. Watching our daughter grown-up
in front of our eyes cannot be described in word .I used to compare my
intelligence with her age. Comparing to other girls of her age Sony was an
intelligent girl.
At the age of two she
was able to sing five nursery rhymes, she was able to tell the names of week
and months, she could also count one to fifty. I felt very proud of my little
daughter. Her.......
